They fall in love and decide to marry people of different ages. Who as fate will develop. It seems that some of the fates are similar to the fruits of trees: for someone - with a sourish taste of an apple, and for someone - with a tart and at the same time sweet taste of ripe cherry ...
Love in kindergarten
Psychologists explain that love in kindergarten is not a toy. Kids also know how to truly love and suffer if they are not reciprocated. But, having not yet formed a soul, they are easier to experience failures. I loved Artyom in kindergarten. Why? Because Artem's parents were actors of the theater, and the boy was able to do flips. When we were told before the children's matinee that I would be in Georgian costume, and Artyom was in Uzbek national costume, my grief knew no bounds. I hoped that I would be in a wreath with poppies and cornflowers to stand next to Artem, dressed in Ukrainian trousers. And our love will then be as deep and wide as the Black Sea. Children cannot explain anything, and therefore their experiences seem insignificant. To the question: "Why do you love Vitalik?" Lena replies: "Because he has the biggest and most red bicycle!"
Love at the school desk
School love is social and social. Adolescents like to establish themselves, to conflict, if not deserve public popularity, then at least arouse interest in their person. No matter how. Hence, such manifestations of love, like twitching of a pigtail. Most of the guys in the class are interested in a popular classmate and vice versa. Such a collective love.
Adult love
This is the age of the first serious relationship. The age is extremely generous: I want to give love. People satisfy each other, first of all, emotionally. As a rule, they immediately fasten their union and have children. And soon, many couples begin to threaten the state of entropy. Entropy - the property of matter to scatter. After three or four years of marriage, it becomes boring. I want new dramas and romance. Here you have to take control of everything and seek romance in relationships with your partner, whom you swore allegiance.
What is idealization in love?
Every man has his own type-ideal of a woman. We understand one side of this ideal with the mind, others only with the subconscious. As a result, a man falls in love by mistake into non-existent traits of a character and projects them onto the appearance of an object of love. Subsequently, it turns out that only part of the features of a loved one coincide with the ideal. But the choice in the subconscious has already been made, the feelings were born. Until now, scientists have not come to a common opinion, for what reasons, under the influence of love or love, a person begins to idealize the object of his feelings. Perhaps the idealization of the beloved comes from childhood, from the love of the mother. In childhood, a baby’s happiness depends on his mother; in adulthood, the spiritual happiness of a man is also completely dependent on the woman he loves. A man who loves, much more notice beauty than one who looks at the world around him too rationally. So, adolescents are more prone to idealization, respectively - to frustration. While the mature ones, who make their choices more consciously, face less "surprises".
Crazy practicality
Some fall in love "without hind legs", others mull over everything, make their choice and act. For example, Natalia always wanted to marry a German and become a citizen of Germany. She has already made eight unsuccessful attempts in relations with the Germans. She has her own criteria: a German should be no older than 38 years old, no higher than 170 cm tall, handsome, with a salary of at least 2500 thousand euros, not an emigrant. If he was married, then without children and loans ... As nature summarizes the crustaceans according to their claws, so Natalya chooses an applicant to create a family according to his “Germanity”.
Careful love
Truly adults like caution. They choose a partner not only emotionally, but also rationally, and then they love both with their heart and mind. For example, a mature woman needs someone with whom she will have a good and comfortable time. After all, she can live independently on her own. But good and comfortable with her. Having known all the feelings described above, a person is ready for a more thoughtful, deep relationship. Youthful maximalism and ambition recede into the background, there is a certain sacrifice, a desire to give, and not just self-actualization. In adulthood, it is usually easier for people to put up with shortcomings in the nature of their partner, “closing their eyes” to negative characteristics.
... And they say that the strongest and especially tender love is for those over 50. We will wait and see. By the way, Canadian scientists from the University of Montreal claim that the strongest love is in adulthood. Older couples are more often satisfied with their married life than younger ones. For those who are 20, it is ridiculous to watch the love of those who are over 30. The love of adults is an interesting thing. You are afraid to be funny and at the same time very correct and wise. You are afraid to love and you are afraid not to love. You are afraid to make a mistake, but so you want to penetrate into the pink world of youthful fantasies. Only now with more strength, passion and experience. Because this man is so welcome. Anyway: what does a girl, who is 18, know about love? Another thing you ...
Time does not spare anyone. But it has no power over the true feeling. It is about true love, not its illusion. Love cannot be limited to age, just as in age you cannot limit the desire to love.
