For eight years, I was a constant witness of a very harmonious relationship: a friend with the diligence of a bona fide secretary informed me about how the novel proceeds first, and then family life. Honestly, I was happy for my girlfriend and even envied a little.
Therefore, everything really developed, according to the instructions of beautiful female love stories: bouquets with or without, cute surprises, love little notes, constant gentle hugs and fleeting kisses. House duties are evenly divided; occasionally even her morning coffee in bed is served by her husband (and this is after 4 years of marriage and 2 years before the registry office of living together!). And then, like thunder among a clear July evening, a friend resorts with tears in three streams, she herself does not look like herself.
In general, the story is banal, everything was good and just wonderful, when the girl suddenly realized that with romance in their life it became quite depressing. Colleagues at work seemed to have made a conspiracy of silence: they began to look meaningfully at each other and cut off conversations in the smoking room, as soon as a friend joined them. Her spouse (they work in the same company, although in different departments) for some reason, they began to sympathetically clap their shoulders and say "do not worry that she left you."
A friend decided to figure out what was happening, and directly asked her lover what was happening. He left the conversation, but he sent a short text message: "I fell in love with another, but I told everyone that it was you who stopped loving me and left to save your self-esteem."
I read the messages, I was indignant at such impudence: I changed it myself, so I also left my wife and child. And she began a standard procedure of consolation, using everything available at home: she gave her friend a chance to cry, gave strong coffee to her drink with chocolate and creamy liqueur, soaked the new tears from her eyes with napkins. And she proposed to solve the problem radically: that is, do you want your betrothed after what happened? And if so, then let's look for information, how to return a loved one, if he is already with another?
How to return a beloved man
From my past life experience, I knew that the best way to win the attention of any man is to show him that you don’t need him at all. Then he automatically turns on the old instinct of the hunter, who is afraid of losing his prey, and he actively rushes to conquer the woman again. Because, according to the male nature code, an already conquered girl who confesses her love and prepares syrniki and scrambled eggs in the morning becomes uninteresting.
There was a lot of information and different, but from the listed effective means allowing to act at a distance, the most effective friend seemed to be prayer. A friend found an icon at home (another grandmother) of St. Nicholas and asked for help. She even lit the candles, though with New Year's décor - there were no others in the house. I am methodically surfing online resources in search of recipes for restoring relationships.
For two weeks, a friend tried "to get her loved one back by force of thought", for this it was necessary every day to tell his photos about her own feelings for an hour. She partially shared her experiences with a photo, but for the most part she spoke to me personally. Then she conducted a ritual, which is recommended after parting, to attract the energy of love into her life: she housed hearts and paired figurines in the corners of the room, lit scented candles, read the mantra (she had to come up with the most, but talk from the heart and about the cherished) .
Then, for two days, a friend suffered over a letter to her beloved - according to reviews of a very powerful tool, especially if you write by hand, list the best moments of your previous life together and the first meeting, and at the end add a registry about how much you love the former ... that is, tell that without it you can not. In my mind, this is a waste of time, but my friend was a little distracted, writing out in an uneven hand (due to her experience and past practice) sheet-by-sheet, scratching and rewriting. But the correspondence did not take place - the friend did not know the new address of residence, and at work her husband took leave for a month. Under the influence of her creative impulse, I also tried to write poems with a romantic aura, there were words about chords of love, and about a lonely full moon, and about days blacker than black soil. A friend has read, was deeply moved, and I wept for the company with her.
10 golden simple rules
In my opinion, it doesn’t matter what a person does during the period of mental agony, the main thing is that he does something, and does not lie in prostration on the sofa. And any action can bring the desired result. For example, my friend used the following:
1) I was fascinated by designing my future with the help of “Medici Solitaire” - there it is necessary to build a chain of certain events in order to get the desired result. Positive was the fact that she, during her solitaire games, managed to "fold" the gift - and literally in a day won some pennies in the lottery. She was inspired and even went to the beauty salon for a new hairstyle.
2) I found several online fortune-tellers who guarantee quick results, promising instant love spells and rendering their magic services even without prepayment. It was not possible to bring a loved one to the family with their help, but a friend really became interested in esotericism, and began to be actively educated on this matter. As a result, in her opinion, she restored her energy balance, tuned in to positive thoughts and began not only to listen to more cheerful songs, but also began to dance with pleasure with them.
3) Then, a friend came to an educational era: she purposefully downloaded courses and trainings on how to get her loved one back from torrents. "Together we watched three video courses by Victoria Vlasova, we lost heart in Igor Latyshko’s recordings, we figured out the causes of depression according to Boris Litvak. In fact, the authors of Oleg Ideal and Alyona Volk described the book “How to return a loved one” by reviewing the recommendations of Olga Chikankova on how to return a loved one. why the "tracts" Irina World about how his wife back.
4) According to my feelings, my friend and I could already give lectures on this subject. But she continued to improve herself in being happy with the help of Mikhail Torsunov's training and raising her rating in the courses of Pavel Rakov.
5) Then on the new moon, we made romantic amulets and performed a ritual to bring personal "female happiness" to life (for this we had to wipe ourselves with cold moon water, and take an air bath, and smear ourselves with an aromatic blend of essential oils under a simple spell like "Come to me my love and bring happiness with you ").
6) And to participate in two safe and completely harmless rituals: clean the room from unnecessary things, and your life from negative thoughts. And then call the former spouse on the phone and chat on neutral topics.
7) After that, there was a clear breakthrough in the situation, in less than one day: the spouse invited a friend to drink coffee in the cafeteria during the lunch break. We must pay tribute to all these magical and psychologically tricks brought a certain result - the girlfriend stopped feeling sorry for herself and complained about her fate, she was refreshed and prettier. She began to dance even more actively under folk motifs and practice cleansing douche with cold water daily.
8) After joint coffee drinking, the husband offered her friend to take her home - she tried to catch him for a long time after work with heavy bags and finally succeeded. Knight in the familiar home environment offered: favorite salad with chicken in Greek, brewed in a special way tea and return.
9) The husband thanked for everything and went away thoughtful, and the girlfriend, having thoroughly mastered the technique of Simoron, began to recite funny rhymes of his own composition. Along the way, ask for help from St. Matronushka. And to learn fortune-telling on tarot cards, and for some reason I managed to make fortunes with some married husband.
10) Her next weekend friend devoted to cleansing the house of unnecessary things (even trying to make a chair) and filling it with love magic. I don't know what helped, but at that moment, when the chair was tightly stuck in the elevator, her husband returned. He worked as a free loader, made some male work on the house and, as he was very tired, asked to spend the night, they say, and the time is late (only the beginning of the eleventh night).
What to do to regain trust after lies (psychology)
What helped her friend - I do not know, she already approached her husband’s return too complexly. Everything seemed to be back to previous circles, but the negative sediment still remained, although her husband apologized and sincerely explained the reason for his action (they say, that girl herself jumped on him, so he lost his head), and swore that will not happen again. But now it remains to start believing again and not being paranoid about the past.
But what to do if a man has lost confidence in you? A simple promise here is not to get off. You need to make it clear that his trust is very important to you. Be always sincere and open up to him, telling about secrets that were still inaccessible to anyone. This is what will help to breathe fresh notes into the old relationship, where there has been a lie.
And we continue the topic: how to return the guy you love (advice of a psychologist).
The centuries-tested "how to get rid of rival" method
Her friend, of course, believed and forgiven her husband, but secretly developed a whole strategy from him in order to prevent the emergence of new mistresses:
1) has forbidden itself to be jealous and control her man once and for all.
2) began to "tag" the home territory with the smell of fresh pastries (her husband just loves cinnamon buns), and accidentally sprinkle his favorite clothes on his perfume.
3) engaged in self-improvement to look busy, creative and interesting.
4) all requirements to the husband began to be voiced in the form of a request, and at least once a day indulged him with gratitude, compliments, or a laudatory review (especially with outsiders).
5) and the most important thing is to look at everything with a positive.
