The child puts his fingers into an electrical outlet, climbs into a chair that is about to fall directly on it, picks up, or is it pulling something dirty in its mouth? And to all persuasions: "Throw, do not touch, do not go" does not react? In this case, his Majesty Creek comes to the aid of the parent.
And so, the mother who had just spoken in a calm, soft voice fell on op, her eyes were burning with anger, she did not fully control herself. The child is frightened. Fears not only of the fact that mom shouts at him like that, but also the sensations that once he raises his voice, it means that he is bad. And if such "breakdowns" in the mother are not uncommon, then the baby can get psychological trauma, which enters into adulthood as well.
What to do? How to wean yourself screaming at children?
First you need to understand the reasons for the cry.
- “He doesn’t hear me, he doesn’t understand me,” mothers usually justify themselves, often screaming at their son or daughter. And, they say, shout - and all at once becomes clear. Clearly it is clear, but ... But after all, after a session of "cryotherapy," the child will probably do forbidden things in secret, become secretive, suspicious. In some cases, sudden shouts can cause urinary incontinence and stuttering.
Solution to the problem: keep away from playful little hands all those things that you think can hurt him. If you did not follow, and the baby knocked something over, broke it, poured it out - remove it with him, without blaming the child for an error. You can even arrange the game "who will quickly remove."
- Banal mother's fatigue. Sitting with a baby in the decree for those mothers who love vigorous activity is not an easy task. But also a number of household chores. Many women accumulate irritation due to the everyday life and the fact that "everything is on it". Here in such situations, some kind of incorrect child's action becomes the “last straw”, and the mother breaks down to cry. Most often, in such a situation, the baby simply does not understand the reason for her mother’s scream and only dreams in her heart about how to hide, to hide from the “sound wave”.
Solution to the problem: if you want to scream, explode, just for a while you can leave the room, stand by the window, breathe deeply. Or go to the shower, stand under the pouring water, which perfectly washes away all the negative. If, nevertheless, the nerves have passed, then later it is necessary to calmly approach the child and apologize to him for having broken off at the cry, they have not restrained. And in homework it is desirable to involve relatives or friends who can help. It will save strength and nerves.
- Show your power - that's why parents shout at their kids. With a cry, they demonstrate their strength, the ability to "crush" a child under themselves, to impose their own behavioral stereotypes on them.
We must remember the simple truth: the cry only frightens and humiliates the dignity of a small child. To get his attention, it is better, on the contrary, to lower the tone of the voice. Then he will listen and understand what they want from him. To treat any "bad" situation philosophically, with a bit of humor. This will allow, at least, to communicate with children without hysteria and screams.
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